How to Stop Being Depressed About Love

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When love turns sour and depression sets in, is there a way out ? There is most certainly; everyone has the capacity to reach deep inside and find a way through love gone wrong, or unrequited love. Here are some ways to start improving your outlook about your own future and the role of love in your life.

1. Stop the negative spiraling. There is little point being constantly negative about yourself or your chances in love. This is a bad habit and it deserves to be broken. While it is fine to be down and sad every now and then, it's not fine to have this as your usual temperament.
2. Be accepting that you can't make other people into something they are not. This includes trying to make someone love you it will happen if it's meant to be but if they change and their love for you also changes, it isn't a good idea to take out their choices on your own self esteem.
   
   
3. Be patient. Love is a very varied ideal and no two people have the same notion of what it is, or is not. This is often the reason behind why love relationships don't always work out because both parties have different viewpoints of what love is and how it should be impacting their lives. In being patient, you can do several important things for yourself :
   -You can get on with your life and the activities you enjoy.
   -You can cultivate your interests to the greatest extent possible.
   -You can open to all the incredible possibilities that are still awaiting you, including and especially love.
   -You can learn self-patience and apply that to everyday life.
   
   
4. Find and make the most of distractions. Pursue your hobbies, watch your favorite movies, head outdoors with a trusted friend, etc.
   When love is getting you down, do something to get on top of the blues. Action is always the best antidote to moping and negativity.
   
   
5. Look for the lesson. Being rejected is never pleasant but each time something like that happens to us, there is something we can learn about ourselves, about how relationships develop or fade. Look for what you can take from this to apply to future relationships rather than trying to go over what could have been different. A lot could have been different but hindsight does not changes the past; it only informs the future.
   
   
6. Relax, there's plenty of time to find love. It will come, even if you're in your 90s.